By Pooja Marwah
In this grand circus called life, there’s an acrobatic phrase that’s been tossed around like a juggling pin – “fake it till you make it”. I would go a step further and add a tagline – “Navigate the hilarious highwire of confidence!”
This curious phrase has stirred up debates, both serious and comical, about its effectiveness in the realm of improvement – personal and professional. Is it a genius hack for boosting self-assurance, or a perilous tightrope walk over the chasm of authenticity?
Picture this: you’re a fledgling entrepreneur, about to pitch your groundbreaking idea to a panel of investors. Your heart is playing a drum solo, and your palms have turned into miniature geysers. The “fake it till you make it” anthem kicks in. You straighten your tie (or imaginary tie) and stride in, oozing confidence like a superhero on the red carpet. And lo and behold, the panel is eating out of your hand! You’ve successfully bluffed your way to a potential investment. The exhilaration of the moment is akin to standing on a unicycle atop Everest – ridiculous, improbable, and oddly satisfying. You’ve not just faked it; you’ve worked your tail feathers off to make it, and it shows.
Now, before you trade in your sense of authenticity for a top hat and a rabbit, let’s balance on one foot and consider the flip side. People often argue that “faking it” only leads to a circus act of insecurities, and sooner or later, the audience sees through the illusion.The result? An audience left with a concoction of bemusement and scepticism. So, is this whole endeavour a whimsical carnival act, or is there a method to the madness?
In essence, I’ve grown to understand that the “fake it till you make it” mantra can be a treasure map leading to the XYZ of self-discovery and growth. It encourages you to stretch your comfort zone, face your fears, and occasionally don the mask of confidence until it starts to feel like a second skin.
But here’s where the safety net drops: you can’t wear that mask forever. As the old saying goes, “You can’t fool all the people all the time”. Eventually, the tent will come down, the makeup will wash off, and you’ll be left standing there with your true abilities in full view.
This is no judgement day, so the way I would attempt to view it, would be like a remix of sorts – the “Flaunt It While You Hone It” approach. Embrace the fear, but don’t let it paralyze you. Channel your inner actor, embody the roles you aspire to, while simultaneously investing time in skill-building. When you strut on to that stage, remember that even the best illusionists practiced their sleight of hand tricks until their fingers ached.
In life, confidence is the shimmering thread that weaves your aspirations into reality. But it’s a thread that’s best spun from genuine effort and earnest dedication, not just smoke and mirrors. So work with conviction, walk the tightrope of self-improvement, and embrace the applause that comes, not just from the audience, but from the mirror that reflects your true journey – from faking to making it, and all the dazzling moments in between.
(Pooja Poddar Marwah is an award winning author and Blogger. She writes an contemporary living and offers incisive reflections on the world around us. Her blog,
Random Conversations is a go to guide to deal with the myraid stuggles we face each day.)