By Pooja Marwah
One question that captures the attention of everyone is – how far will you go to get the life of your dreams?
One question that the older generation has to face is – Did I live the life I wanted or did I let pre-set norms dictate my day and night?
It is very interesting to partake in surveys and research as it opens up doors and insights you never knew existed… and the answers are more or less similar. Of all the data available, a majority of the replies were negative. They either looked away or had a deep sense of regret at the ‘what if’!
There is no right time or right place to do the right thing. For if, as people, we differ so greatly in thoughts and deeds, how is it that one generalised way of life will work for you and me?
Ever thought about it like a child? There are universal laws. Look left, look right, look left again and then cross the road. How will this affect my reaching the other side if I reversed it? The main idea is to be careful and watchful… that is all.
Dreaming about life is a sign of procrastination and laziness. But dreaming about a life you want and chasing it with all you have got is a way of being. There is no set rule that denies anyone living the way they want to except for one – Fear.
Life is limitless. And the only restraints that are there are the ones we encase ourselves in… willingly. Excuses are only a justification we give ourselves to not do what we want. Regret steps in when you have nothing to look forward to. But if you keep your eyes fixed onto a vision and keep at it, no matter what the odds are… there is no way you can’t achieve it. But most give up when they are at the last bend!
It is very sad to know that when you have it in you to change the course of your life, you are not strong enough to. The reason this is in the present tense is because no matter what age you are at while reading this…if today you want change…all you really have to do is get up and walk to it. Give it a hug…it may or may not hug you back…but if you pursue it relentlessly – Believe me, IT WILL.
Age doesn’t automatically turn you into a grouch, growing old is actually a privilege denied to many. The course of your own life determines how calm or antsy you will be as you mature. It is not about the things or people around you but you yourself who is in that driving seat. Most of us spend time seeking validation or permission from someone around us but the stark reality is that it is just another excuse we are giving ourselves to not press that accelerator. No one is going to come and give you permission to drive your own car. It’s yours…drive it as fast or slow as you want!
The only way to live the life of your dreams is to live it…not crave it. It really isn’t rocket science and it sure as hell is not being selfish. It’s called loving yourself – because only if you find yourself worthy of love, will someone else find that in you. It is like the adage…you can only spread happiness if you are happy.
So, before you set out on a quest to find meaning for your life, pause a moment in the mirror and smile, and you’ve got your meaning right there. Live your life as though life depended on it…because it does!
(Pooja Poddar Marwah is an award winning author and Blogger. She writes on contemporary living and offers incisive reflections on the world around us. Her blog, Random Conversations is a go to guide to deal with the myriad struggles we face each day.)